Even amongst those who treasure it the most, film has become less accessible. There are precious, few places to develop it and in my experience, it can quickly become an expensive vice. But take one glance at the photos from Molly Steele and you just may be inspired to ditch your iPhone and splurge. Just try telling me these photos don’t make you want to GTFOutside.
I feel like a grew up a little more after reading Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. And in a good way. Mark’s latest work is all about getting people to think with more clarity about what we’re choosing to find important in life and what we aren’t. Some would call this basic maturity, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t grasp it. Hell, I know I could do a better job of it.
But before this title is thrown into a heap along with the other billion self-development books out there, let me say that it’s a bit different. It’s not a magical guide to live life better or cure you of anything, and Manson is careful to tell you that upfront. But it could help turn some of your life’s problems into better ones.
While there is no surefire path to do that, it’s refreshing how Manson readily admits that humans have always made mistakes about what they claim to be true. As a human, he reminds us that he could be wrong about some of counterintuitive approach in this book. I trust him even more for admitting this.
Here are a few takeaways from the book I found worth mentioning:
On having a limited amount of fucks to give – Core to Manson’s book is that as much as it may be praised, there’s no one that doesn’t give a fuck about anything. With that being said, humans have a limited amount of fucks to give without going completely insane or giving up. It would be wise to consider what we want to spend our time and energy on.
On the pursuit of pleasure – While there is no one cause, a lot of modern life has us in the constant pursuit of pleasure, almost to the point where we don’t think we should ever face any discomfort. While we may think we want a perfect life, Manson makes the case that happiness comes from solving our problems. Besides, you are never going to be able to dodge all of life’s problems. A better course of action may be to spend sometime figuring out what pain you want in your life and what is worth struggling for. It’s the struggle that defines our character.
On values – It’s possible to have shitty values, or to use a euphemism, values that don’t serve you. Manson mentions that we may want to carefully consider (and question) what we value, even if it’s something you feel like is universally accepted as good.
By the time I finished this book, I had pages and pages of material highlighted to revisit and I certainly can’t cover that all now. But if you enjoy brash commentary, humor, and thought-provoking conversation, I recommend you take a chance on this title. I’ll leave you with a quote from the book that may be the perfect example:
“To not give a fuck is to stare down life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action. While not giving a fuck may seem simple on the surface, it’s a whole new bag of burritos under the hood. I don’t even know what that sentence means, but I don’t give a fuck. A bag of burritos sounds awesome, so let’s just go with it.”
Summer is coming to a close, and this month’s mix pays homage, but to be honest we’ll still probably be bumping summer jams well into winter. On this playlist you’ll find tracks from Japanese Breakfast, Everyone Is Dirty, Father John Misty, and much more. Oh and if you miss Rdio as much as we do, check out Spotio.
How do you feel about your morning commute? I’m torn. When it takes too long, it can be dreadful, but I’ve found the absence of one removes a space of time to gather my thoughts, read, or prepare for the day. We put together short videos of our morning commutes from up and down the West Coast. If you’d like to join us in sharing yours, tag it #hmcommute on Instagram.
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When we were putting together this month’s mixtape, the song selection got dark, I think because we’re all spending too much time dwelling in the doom and gloom predictions of the internet. Luckily, a quick trip to Woodsist Festival influenced the final selection and brought balance to include some dreamy tunes. On this edition, you’ll find tracks from Yumi Zouma, Nice as Fuck, Kari Faux, Sugar Candy Mountain and more. Kick back and have a listen!