Recently I read An Open Heart: Practising Compassion in Everyday Life by the Dalai Lama because I was interested in learning more about Buddism and its philosophies. Here’s a standout passage that really made me think.
There is a certain irrationality in responding to injustice or harm with hostility. Our hatred has no physical effect on our enemies; it does not harm them. Rather, it is we who suffer the ill consequences of such overwhelming bitterness. It eats us from within. With anger we slowly begin to lose our appetite. We cannot sleep at night and just up rolling back and forth, back and forth, all night long. It affects us profoundly, while our enemies continue along, blissfully unaware of the state we have been reduced to.
Free of hatred or anger, we can respond to actions committed against us far more effectively. If we approach things with a cool head, we see the problem more clearly and judge the best way to address it.
Just something to keep in mind anytime you have intense dislike or hatred. There is, in fact, another way.